Hi my name is tina I from a sikh family I wanted some advice from you guys because I am having difficulty with my family members they are not excepting my feeling toward girls and they are making negative comments towards me I would like advice about how to handle my family how making this difficult for me
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Thank you for your email. I am sorry to hear that you are experiencing difficulties with your family.
Sikhism is a progressive religion, based upon the fundamental principle of equality. There is nothing in the holy scriptures (Sir Guru Granth Sahib Ji) that speaks out against homosexuality.
The Guru’s taught us to treat all of mankind equally. Irrespective of gender, class, caste, religion or sexuality. Furthermore, the Guru’s instructed the Sikhs to protect those who are persecuted in society. It goes without saying, that this extends to our immediate families.
We are all the creation of God – Waheguru. It is to him that we will all ultimately answer.
I cannot stress enough that Sikhism, under any circumstances, does not allow negative actions against anybody based on their sexuality.
Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji instructs on the important concept of equality by highlighting the fact that we are all made of the same flesh, blood and bone. We have the same light of God with us.
ਏਕੋ ਪਵਣੁ ਮਾਟੀ ਸਭ ਏਕਾ ਸਭ ਏਕਾ ਜੋਤਿ ਸਬਾਈਆ ॥ ਏਕੋ ਪਵਣੁ ਮਾਟੀ ਸਭ ਏਕਾ ਸਭ ਏਕਾ ਜੋਤਿ ਸਬਾਈਆ ॥
We understand that this is a difficult time for everyone concerned. However, your family should be reminded that you did not choose to be gay. This was God’s will. We are all born according to God’s wishes, and we are not in a position to argue with the wishes of Waheguru.
We have many gay and lesbian people in Sarbat, and also in the wider Sikh community. They are living happy and fulfilling lives.
We hope that your family continue to show you their love and compassion . And that they will allow you to live your life – as our founding forefathers, our Guru’s, would have allowed you to do.
I am attaching a leaflet on Sikhism and same-sex relationships which your family may find helpful.
We would be happy to answer any questions that you may have.
Please keep us informed on how you get along.